(Response to someone’s rant on a blog I came across)
Thinking that a marriage is the solution to all relationship problems – is probably the worst reason to get married for.
I’m not going to make clichéd claims revolving around marriage being a sacred institution; this has been inculcated deeply already in our culture as soon as puberty hits – At times even earlier.
But making a marriage work is undoubtedly the biggest challenge you will ever face in your life & it will be a 24/7 job. Dealing with multiple people from different schools of thoughts and backgrounds; all of who carry their own baggage and experiences. No breaks, no vacations, no leaves.
The efforts you put in will be your own, the benefits you reap will be yours and so will be the losses. In this job, no action; big or small can be pushed aside believing that it doesn’t affect you because directly or indirectly IT WILL AFFECT YOU!
However, the one thing that can help overcome all problems is mutual respect.
Give it. Earn It. Inculcate it in your off springs.
Respect for each other has the power to solve things where love seems to fade, tolerance teeters at the edge, lack of dialogue or a cold war gridlock
& especially when you start to wonder “Why did I even…?”
The only thing that will keep you from going over the edge is respect for the other.
The only thing that’ll keep them from doing something drastic against you is respect.
Fear & Respect are two very different things.